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LGBTQ Affirmative Services

I provide LGBTQ affirmative counseling and consulting services. LGBTQ individuals, couples and families are no different from others when it comes to human needs, except for the fact that they are often experiencing discrimination, external and internal homophobia.  My sensitive approach to counseling affirms each person's humanity and self-worth, encouraging growth and self-acceptance.

Some of the areas specifically affecting LGBT individuals may include:

  • Depression, anxiety; loneliness, anger

  • Drinking or drugging too much

  • People in need of support to maintain their sobriety

  • Men who have difficulty in forming or sustaining intimate relationships

  • Lesbian, male or heterosexual couples who are going through a difficult period

  • People living with HIV/AIDS, or other chronic illnesses

  • People whose partners have HIV/AIDS, or other chronic illnesses

  • Grief/loss related to the death of a partner

"Coming Out" can be one of the most important and difficult experiences for an LGBTQ individual.  Thoughtful consideration of one's own level of self-acceptance and inner strength, adequate preparation, attention to timing and awareness of expectations, and one's own personal support system are all factors to be considered in the "Coming Out." process.


Research on the issue of internalized shame reveals that those who come out mindfully to family, friends, and significant others tend to experience greater levels of mental health and self-esteem.  When one remains in the closet indefinitely, the soul suffers.  People who remain closeted are essentially telling themselves that they are not acceptable to themselves and others.  The "Coming Out" process is something that should then be handled with care and intention so that the individual might grow in awareness and understanding.

It is important to recognize that because of our society's attitudes about sexual orientation, many gay, lesbian, bisexual,  transgender, or questioning people face conflicts and hassles, stigmatization, violence and discrimination on a daily basis.  Counseling can also help LGBTQ people and their family members alleviate feelings of isolation, anger, sadness, and poor self-esteem.  I specialize in issues related to Gay Men & their significant others/families.

If you find yourself struggling with your sexual orientation, relationship issues, in need of couples counseling, or if you are depressed, anxious, lacking self-confidence, contact me today to make your first step on the journey to a new life!


Credit Cards, Pay-Pal & FSA Cards can be used to pay for Counseling & Therapy Sessions.  Click on the Buy Now Button for Pay Pal and all other credit card companies.  Add $4.00 Service Charge to your bill for this service.  Thank you.